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What's Your Story?
Sofia Alonso Bauer
August 21, 2024
We all have unlimited potential — but often our results don’t reflect that. Why? Because our unconscious beliefs cripple our results.
Our nature is to only invest energy into that which we believe will produce the outcome we seek.
Therefore, when we believe something is not going to work out – even unconsciously – we sabotage our potential by taking halfhearted action.
Little action = Lousy results.
Lousy results = Uncertainty.
It is a vicious cycle that only ends when you decide to change what you’re putting into it.
The more resolved beliefs we have about achieving something, the more potential we will tap. With greater potential comes greater action. Greater actions yield greater results.
The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want is the story you keep telling yourself.
When we believe something is not going to work out – even unconsciously – we sabotage our potential by taking halfhearted action.
A belief is a feeling of certainty about what something means to us.
The challenge is that most of our beliefs were unconsciously created based on our interpretations of painful and pleasurable experiences in our past.
But the past does not dictate the present… unless you continue to live there.
We can find experiences to back up almost any belief, but the key is to make sure that we are consciously aware of the beliefs we are creating. If your beliefs don’t empower you, change them.
The past does not dictate the present… unless you continue to live there.
Below I will list the most common beliefs we tell ourselves that keep us stuck. If any of these you can relate with… maybe reflect on your learning as you read this and see what you can do to interrupt your limiting beliefs to create a more empowering future.
Limiting Belief 1
“I don’t have time.”
FACT: You have the same number of hours in a day as everyone else in the world. Why are some people able to capture every moment while others consistently use lack of time as an excuse? They don’t track their time.
Begin each day with a definite plan and put a stake in the ground for what it is that you want out of the day.
Limiting Belief 2
“I don’t deserve love.”
FACT: Insecurity. This limiting belief is fatal for your future. Insecurity can be hard to overcome, as we must conquer it within ourselves and within the relationship. Everyone deserves love, but in order to find and keep love, you must first overcome the false belief that you are unworthy of love.
You have to get real and raw with yourself about what you want, and ultimately become the person that you need to be in order to attract your ideal mate. Decide on the qualities that you are looking for, and not looking for.
Limiting Belief 3
“What if I’m settling?”
FACT: As relationships progress, couples often slip into patterns of certainty - which can make them feel as if they’ve settled. The key is to not get stale. In order to create fulfilling relationships, you must continue to innovate and market with your partner. You put your best face forward. You innovated and spent time thinking of ways to make your partner happier than they have ever been. If you do what you did in the beginning of the relationship, there won’t be an end.
Limiting Belief 4
“I’m scared of rejection.”
FACT: The truth is, “rejection” is often just a meaning you make up. Did they reject you? Or were they just not available? Maybe they had something going on you didn’t know about. They key is to find an empowering meaning each time you might feel “rejected” so that it propels you forward, as opposed to holding you back.
Limiting Belief 5
“I don’t have what it takes to succeed.”
FACT: In 1979 the Harvard MBA program conducted a study where graduate students were asked, “have you set clear, written goals for your future and made plans to accomplish them?”
Only 3% had written goals and plans.
13% had goals but they weren’t in writing, and 84% had no goals at all.
10 years later, the same group was interviewed again. The 13% of the class who had goals but did not write them down was earning twice the amount of the 84% who had no goals. The 3% who had written goals were earning, on average, ten times as much as the other 97% of the class combined!
In order to achieve success, you need to first commit to making a change — and setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.
Limiting Belief 6
“I could never do that.”
FACT: The fear of failure is the #1 most common fear holding us back from success.
The truth is, there is no such thing as failure; there are only results. Fear destroys our psychology and immobilizes us from taking action. Fear is hard wired into every human being — nothing we do in our lifetimes will take away fear. The secret is learning how to use fear instead of letting fear use you!
Limiting Belief 7
“I don’t have the skills or talent.”
FACT: “If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.”
Life requires progress — so keep learning.
To grow and find fulfillment, you must resolve that stagnation is not an option. Be the creator of your life and decide to live life on your own terms. Turn uncertainty into action. Focus on a vision. Decide and commit. Resolve to change. When you commit, there will always be a way.
Limiting Belief 8
“Successful people are just lucky.”
FACT: If there is one thing successful people have in common, it is not luck. Instead, they all share key personality traits: persistence, drive, dedication and passion.
When things are not working, know that victory is often just one small step away. All it takes is a small shift in your psychology or strategy to get momentum and the results you are after.
Remember: where focus goes, energy flows.