What does 'love' have to do with it?

Divorces occur now more than marriages.

Why do so many people divorce the person they loved the most?

It’s not really a mystery.

It’s because good times are a poor predictor of how your partner handles bad times and handling bad times well is much more important to the success of a marriage.

It’s the lows not the highs that make or break the relationship.

In the short term, it’s exciting to feel like you relate strongly with your partner in specific ways, but in the long term it’s really how you handle misunderstandings, conflict, confusion, and disagreements that go the distance.

Should a relationship be about increasing peak experiences or should it be on how do we handle conflict and prevent catastrophe in the relationship, knowing each others strengths and weaknesses?

My life lately has been 90% surviving non-stop business affairs, 5% just making sure I do my daily cardio so I get some exercise in and don’t completely lose my healthy body, 3% anxious over whether or not the things I’m currently allocating a tremendous amount of time in my business are the right things I should be doing to move the ball forward, 1% remembering to take a shower and feed myself, and the last 1% allocated toward cultivating my relationships or trying to feel feminine in any aspect.

It’s easy to get caught up in the doing that you forget whether what you’re doing is what’s most important and most aligned with the future you want for yourself.

Considering I haven’t spent any time allocated to learning more about how to have a healthy relationship as of late, this article that I ready about divorce rates really caught me off guard and drew my attention.

Who are you at your worst? Who are you in the bad times? Who is your partner at their worst? Who or what are they like in the bad times?

Do you have a proactive plan for when these situations (that always occur) come up when shit hits the fan and everything doesn’t go according to plan?

Do you lean on each other and try and find ways to ensure the betterment of the relationship is what’s most important? Or do you tear each other down and become worse versions of each other when you’re together?

Because these are the questions that matter.

These are the questions you should ask yourself and really dig in to better understand.

Learn to become proactive instead of reactive.

Setting Your Vision for 2025

What does your ideal day look like, and how can you work toward creating it?

Choose one word or theme for the year ahead—what will it be and why?

What are 3 goals you’re most excited to work toward in the coming year?

What are 3 powerful lessons you learned this past year that have shaped you into the person you are today? 

What are the least valuable ways I am spending my time?

How can I prevent myself from continuing to spend time in this way?

What are ways I am showing love and grace to myself? 

What are ways that I can learn how to incorporate more femininity into my life? 

What am I like in my worst moments or when bad things happen?

What do I WANT to be like when bad things happen? 

What emotional home do I live in when bad things occur and what emotional home would be better for myself and those around me? 

What type of person do I want to show up as when I feel fearful or uncertain about something? How could I work towards becoming this person or showing up as this person? 

What are 3 business goals that I want to hit Q1 of next year?

What are 3 personal goals that I want to accomplish next year?

What are 3 relational goals that I want to accomplish next year?

What are 3 physical fitness goals that I want to accomplish next year?

Don’t just read them. Actually list them out and think.

Take action.

Make shit happen for yourself and get clear on what you want and what you’re going to do to make it happen.