Warrior to Worrier

What is the secret to life?

Standards.

Every day you should demand more for yourself than anyone can expect of you.

Skill is not enough. What are the standards you hold for yourself? What are the standards that you hold for the people around you?

The reason we reward people that are exceptional in life is because they raise the standards for the rest of the group.

So, you might be wondering… how do you raise your standards?

You turn your shoulds into musts.

Most people never follow through.

Life is not worth living if it does not have meaning and it won’t have meaning unless you give your all. 

Today you get to decide how you want to live.

It’s all about the standards you set.

Today, I chose to follow through and got real fucking clear on the future I want for myself.

What Story Are You Telling Yourself?

In life there are reasons and then there are results. There is the actual event that occurred and the story that you made in your mind to attribute to it.

So much of our life is caught up in stories.

How are you protecting your psyche so that you don’t have the fear of not being enough?

What reasons are you coming up with in order to not follow through?

Most of us are so busy taking care of everybody else that we stop taking care of ourselves.

Are you taking time for yourself to understand your own mind to learn how to acknowledge your needs that aren’t being met and express them properly?

What Standards Am I Holding Myself To In Relationships And What Standards Do I Want My Partner to Hold Themselves To?

Most people are dabbling in life instead of going all in. They aren’t changing their actions to go ALL IN on the commitments they want to make in life.

If you want to have a great relationship in life, then you must decide on the standards that you hold for yourself and your partner so that you both come to the relationship knowing full well what each partner is expecting and needing in order to feel loved or respected.

What are you demanding from the relationship?

I want a man who takes control. Who makes it happen. Who makes fucking decisions and he does it out of his love for me. He does things so that I don’t have to do them. He listens. He respects me. But then he decides.

I want to be possessed and I want to shiver and tremble and not know what’s going to happen next because I. Am. Not. In. Control.

I want every little sensation I feel to be magnified.

Masculine and Feminine Energies

What do you believe you are? At your core? When you were a little girl did you want to wrestle with the boys or did you spend your time out in nature artistically creating and dancing?

Some women are in control because they haven’t found a man that’s masculine enough. Some women are in control because that’s what their entire life is about. They had to re-engineer a life of masculinity to earn respect from others when what they were really seeking was love.

What are you really?

Let the man have the opportunity to come up with all the answers and enjoy it and as a result, he will become more masculine.

Let the woman have the freedom to not come up with all the answers and she will become feminine.

None of this can happen, though, without trust.

How do you build trust with one another? The most obvious way is through your physiology. Energies and frequencies can only be picked up when you’re with one another and can feel each other.

What happens if there is no physical knowledge of your partners frequency or energy? There is a disconnect to the depth of love you can have because the trust needed to have a true romance cannot be build without proximity.

How Do You Stay In Love With Your Partner?

Love is the continuous nurturing of the feminine energy in a relationship, not masculine. Why?

Because a truly masculine man will not become more feminine when he is hurt. Men tend to stonewall and shut down. They might criticize the woman but they do not become a feminine version of themselves.

However, a woman who becomes hurt in a relationship will shut off her femininity. By doing so, she closes off the ability to completely surrender herself to a man and the polarity will die in the relationship.

1. Where are you currently living in your energy? If you’re both trying to hunt, there will be no prey.

1. Which role do you prefer in life?

2. If you’re living day to day NOT in your core energy, how are you making sure your partner meets your needs in your natural state?

3. What are you going to do moving forward to magnify your natural energy?

How Do You Get What You Want In Life?

Life is really about mastery. If you want to have an amazing quality of life then you have to master some fundamental lessons.

1. What are you going to do to make sure that in this lifetime you can truly achieve the visions you

   have and make them real and make it through all of the challenges that occur?

2. What are you going to do to make sure your relationships are really fulfilling?

3. What standards are you going to hold for yourself and your partner in order to have an exceptional relationship?

4. What are you going to do to master your finances so you can travel where you want, when you want, and are able to give and create and share what you want in your lifetime?

5. What are you going to do in your lifetime to master your time?

Most of us major in minor things. And then we blow them up because we love complexity - it makes us feel significant.

You have two options in life:

1. You can either do something so significant in the lives of others, something that will have such a large impact that you can reach total fulfillment in your passion because it feels your fundamental human needs

OR

2. Have a big enough problem that is so horrible that you have a good reason to feel significant.

Define who you are in life and expand that view. Make certain that you hold yourself to an exceptional standard. The beliefs that will shape you the most are the beliefs that you have over your own identity.

What Standards Am I Holding People To In Business?

Instead of coaching that person - telling that person that they’re not meeting expectations - you’re just going in and doing it without saying anything.

How do you truly hold people accountable?

Why are you fucking overwhelmed and have no attention?

The root comes down to one thing: I’m not holding people accountable.

The more overwhelmed I am, the less I’m holding people accountable.

I’m so scatterbrained, I’m texting people to remind them of the expectations they are supposed to uphold in the business and I’m so busy overcompensating for them that I’m fixing the problems myself instead of holding them accountable.

Competitive Greatness - Leila Hormozi Podcast

The act of holding people accountable is not complicated.

If people do not follow through with the expectations they no longer work in that role. I’m allowing myself to overcompensate for them instead of allowing people to rise up to a role expectation.

• Do people work during your normal work hours?

• Do they have other commitments during the hours that your customers are awake and trying to purchase your product?

• Are there vague KPI’s set that aren’t being held to a standard of accountability?

• Is there reinforcement behind the KPI’s you’re backing up?

• Did you hire someone for a role and they are doing 50% capacity of it and you’re filling in the gap for the rest of it?

• Are you telling them they’re not meeting expectations?

• Am you having uncomfortable conversations with them and letting them know they aren’t meeting expectations?

• Do you lack trust in the ability of your team to solve problems? Is it because fires happen when you give a person a role and it wasn’t met?

• Are KPI’s discussed daily, weekly, monthly and is there consequences in place if they do not meet their job?

• Are you supporting and coaching them or are you doing their job and becoming stressed over their problems?

The reality of most situations is that blaming yourself does not help them improve. They need to grow and you should not treat them like a child and take on their problems.

If you don’t hold people responsible, they will harm the company and the culture.

If they choose to leave, it is beneficial because you do not want to set a culture of incompetence. 

A players do NOT want to work with B players.

You cannot fear people leaving. You have to step up and show the company what the culture will be moving forward.

See your own bullshit and understand that you prefer people who are competitively great. They do not have a diva mentality. Everything is about team. Winners want to be held accountable because they like the pressure and the challenge.

If you aren’t holding people accountable you lose integrity with yourself.