What is Significance?

The Desire to Matter

Let’s tell the truth:

Most of us are quietly, achingly wondering if any of this is enough.

If we are enough.

You can dress it up as “impact,” “legacy,” or “making a difference,” but peel back the language and you’ll find the same heartbeat: a deep, burning need to matter.

We want significance.

To feel that our presence means something.

That we’re not just liked—but valued. Respected. Remembered.

So where do we go looking for it?

Most of us—without realizing it—outsource our sense of worth.

We give it to followers. To approval. To a partner who can’t love us back.

We let other people’s recognition decide how much we’ll recognize ourselves.

But here’s the brutal truth:

The more external your metric of significance, the more fragile it is.

And the more you chase it, the emptier you feel.

What if you didn’t need anyone to approve of you before you approved of yourself?

What if you started measuring your worth by your presence, your truth, your integrity—instead of your appearance or the amount of likes you received online?

Because here’s the reality:

You need to stop handing that power away.

Significance isn’t out there. It’s in you.

It’s in how you show up when no one’s watching.

It’s in the quiet courage of being kind in a world that rewards cruelty.

Ask yourself tonight:

• Where am I outsourcing my significance?

• Who or what have I made the judge of my worth?

• And what would change if I decided to reclaim it?

Because once you anchor your worth internally,

once you stop waiting for validation to name your value—

you become untouchable.

Not because everyone sees your worth.

But because you finally do.

xo,

Sofia