I asked myself a question that cracked something open in me:

How could I be the person who would naturally attract the kind of person I want to be with?

Here’s what I realized.

If I want to call in a person who is grounded, emotionally present, and deeply connected to themselves…

Then I can’t keep living in a state of emotional lack, anxiety, or performance.

I need to stop coming from the energy of “Will you choose me?”

And start embodying: “I’ve already chosen myself.”

Because when I’m full—not desperate, not apologetic, not waiting to be validated—I show up differently.

I speak differently.

I don’t rush to fill silence or fear I’m too much.

I no longer ask, “Am I lovable?”—

I know I am.

I feel it in my posture, in my words, in the way I take up space unapologetically.

This version of me doesn’t collapse under pressure or shrink in unfamiliar rooms.

She doesn’t perform.

She exists.

And that’s enough.

The truth is:

You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you believe you are worthy of.

So the work isn’t to chase someone else.

It’s to become someone so real, that the right energy can’t help but find you.

Not because you begged for it.

But because you embodied it.

This isn’t about becoming perfect.

It’s about becoming honest.

Let yourself exist fully.

That’s where the real magnetism lives.

With you in the becoming.

xo,

Sofia