Earn the Right To Influence

Winning does not lie.

Winning isn't loyal to ANY of us.

It is an entity that is fickle, has no loyalty, and is extraordinarily powerful. For you to win, you must be UNSTOPPABLE.

Winning requires you to think differently. It requires you to take actions that others don’t. Flaws are your gifts.

“You work too much. You’re obsessed. You can’t relax.”

These are not weaknesses. These are your strengths. Focus on working on your strengths. Find individuals around you whose strengths cover your weaknesses. That way, they can handle the areas where you are not strong, allowing you to focus monomaniacally on YOUR STRENGTHS.

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Earn the Right to Influence

Too many people believe they can just barge into someone’s “sphere of influence,” as I call it, simply because of their position or their belief in their own skills. They take their position for granted, assuming they “automatically” have the right to push people into doing things. However, it doesn’t quite work that way.

So, how does someone “earn the right”?

It starts with listening—really listening—to the other person, and in such a way that you truly understand their position, whatever it may be. This has nothing to do with empathy. When we teach people to repeat back certain key words and phrases, it’s not to mimic the person or just to match them to build rapport. It is because when you repeat back some of the things the other person has said, it is generated as output on your side. To output it, you must have it encoded well enough that you also have an internal reference for it.

The side benefit is that the other person will believe you understand them—or not—and that is highly dependent upon the quality of your output.

Earning the right means it’s really a privilege.

Start with Why

Why do I read so much? Because there is a critical math equation at work here: Ideas In = Ideas Out. What I mean by that is I’m not worried about thinking new thoughts. I’m simply trying to make unique connections between old ideas. I believe that’s what makes all of us unique—we make different connections than the next person.

Improve Your Reading Speed

Reading slowly, however, simply will not do. So I had two choices: 1) Learn to speed read. I tried that, and while I could move my eyes across the words faster, I couldn’t understand or retain the information. Option 2) Use audiobooks.

That’s where I live—at 2x speed. To be clear, though, I had to work my way up to that. I started at 1.5x, then pushed myself to 2x, then ultimately to 2.5x. So don’t expect 2.5x to be intelligible right from day one. But like anything, if you push yourself and stick with it, you WILL get better. So, PUSH YOURSELF.

Traits, Characteristics, and Behaviors of the Successful

Based on reading about different people across various professions, I have filtered the traits of the most successful individuals to include the following (this response is still malleable to change later in life as my area of competency expands, but this is what I have concluded thus far):

They are driven people. They are not just ambitious; they are driven by their passions, their abilities, and their purpose. They know themselves so well that they do not need to explain themselves to others. Their behavior “says” it all.

They are infectious—their drive permeates a room, everyone they meet, and their environment. Some people call this charisma, others call it energy. Whatever you call it, know what it is because you have not only experienced it, but you also have it.

They are passionate about whatever it is they do, truly passionate. Even when they have the opportunity to “sell” something, they don’t have to because their passion spills over onto the people listening or in their presence. Most people want to have success.

They know what I have been saying for years: No one is good at everything, but everyone is good at something. They know what they are good at and have built on that. They also know what they are not good at and pass those tasks along to someone else when opportunities arise.

They know their niche and develop their own expertise in their chosen area. They are not afraid of hard work. In fact, to them, it’s not work. They don’t equate it with their passion—to them, it’s not work; it’s their life. It’s what they love doing.

They know that making mistakes is part of making decisions. They don’t expect perfection, but they do expect optimization. At the same time, they also have high expectations for themselves and others, but they understand how to balance all these towards success.

They know how to say “I don’t know” with confidence. They are continuously learning.

These people have attained the pinnacle of success—they demonstrate an uncommon passion for life, an unwavering commitment to personal and professional achievement, and an unstoppable resolve to rise above their laurels.

The key theme, though, is that they think differently and expand what’s possible.

All of them have rearranged their brains to prevail at achieving big goals in turbulent environments where conventional thinking fails.

They started with learning to retrain the 100 billion neurons and tens of trillions of synaptic connections in their brains. Why? Because it is important to get your brain in the right place to make good decisions. To see problems and opportunities differently, you have to push yourself to rearrange your brain in specific ways.